Last night was plain awful. I dreamt that Dick came to me and told me he’d been unfaithful numerous times but that this time he was in love and was going to have the Dave Matthews Band play at his second wedding. One of the worst parts was that my family was sure that it must be my fault because I am apparently as big a shrew as Elizabeth Edwards allegedly is, and remind me not to read about their twisted lives right before bed again.
I responded by draining our bank accounts (didn’t take long), getting cash advances on our credit cards (also didn’t take long), dropping off the kids at school, and flying to Europe. (I called my mom from the airport to ask her to pick up the girls). Why I thought slumming around Europe was a good idea with a severely troubled tummy, I don’t know. And really I’d never do that. This time of year I’d fly to New Zealand, not Europe.
When I was pregnant with Sally, I dreamt that I gave birth to a seahorse, and as I breastfed her she got smaller and smaller. Another time it was that I was able to take my babies out and look at them, only they were graham crackers, and I lined them up on the floor of my mom’s old minivan, and then I had to yell at Brad for trying to eat my babies.
Anyone else think it’s crazy that on top of peeing four times a night you have to dream about serial abandonment?
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Jane Reply:
January 28th, 2010 at 7:05 pm
Dude. That may be the best pun I’ve heard all year.
sorry…thats better than mine….with all three it was dreams of death. the whole time i was preg w/ keifer i dreamed C dead, murder, accidents, the more horrific the more likely to fit in my dreams…
With Tanner it was my death…snakebites, spider bites, tragic car wrecks, you name it and it was always a situation where they asked me whether to save me or save the baby….always chose the baby and woke C up bawling several times because I couldnt bear the thought that he was going to ahve to raise the boys alone….
last year was the worst though, while i was preg with sawyer I must have had 20 dreams of the death of each of the boys….i would wake and go lay down and cuddle them till they would start pushing me away…
I think preg should come with warnings of some of those things….
They say those dreams are your fears manifesting themselves for you, and it kinda makes sense. With the first I was terrified of what would happen if I had to do it alone, the second time I was uneasy about possible complications, and was in a scary car wreck and my demise was more prominently on my mind….now i cannot imagine a greater fear than something happening to one of my boys….
Good luck and hope brad doesnt eat any of your babies.
Steff
Jane Reply:
January 28th, 2010 at 7:07 pm
I don’t know . . . all that death sounds pretty awful. Terrible/sad things my happen in my dreams, but even though I watch graphic tv/movies (like Bones, etc), my dreams are never graphic like that.
Yes — it’s crazy how I can see several fears in the different dreams — like my worry (only during my first pregnancy) that when I breastfed the baby would get smaller instead of gaining weight. By my other pregnancies, this was no longer a fear, so I never had another dream like that one.
And really, I am making a goal to stop reading about those crazy Edwardses.
Okay, so I get terribly insecure about dh when I am pregnant. I never knew why…there was never any reason for it. Then a few years ago, I was reading that many women feel insecure during the late stages of pg especially. Anthropologists suspect It may have to do with the fact that we needed to “try harder” to hold onto our man when birth is imminent to keep from having to go it alone. Just knowing that it was part of the human condition made it easier for me. Just knowing I am not the only one having dreams of my husband cheating on me helps me to not feel so crazy…
Jane Reply:
January 28th, 2010 at 7:09 pm
Yeah, I only dream of being left when I’m pregnant — I’m more apt to dream of an old boyfriend or something when I’m not. (but I always make sure to feel guilty about it later …)
I just posted about my dream husband last night! Sometimes he abandons me, or I catch him unfaithful, or he makes some huge decision (like getting a new job) without even telling me. Then I wake up mad at the real life guy. Here is the post: My Dream Husband, Freudian Style
LOL, I can totally relate! When I was pregnant with the twins I dreamt that they were born but were both these itty bitty babies that fit in a cup so I would hold them in my hand for a minute and then have to put them back into the cup of water so they wouldn’t die. I think the weirdest part for me is always that in my crazy dreams it doesn’t seem weird.
My bad dreams didn’t start until after the births–sleep deprived fear manifestation or something like that…
My mom had a dream two nights before I was born that I was a still birth and her aunt told her that it was her body telling her I was already dead. Needless to say, they’re not close!
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