I minded my own business.
Sure, I had to get up and move finally in order to do it, but I DID IT.
At pack meeting tonight (which if you don’t know what a pack meeting is, just be grateful and don’t ask), there was a crying baby. A one-month old. Mom fed her on one side and then had to go get something. Dad sat there, as the baby cried, and cried, and cried in her carseat.
She wasn’t starving, and she was in no immediate danger, but I felt my (non-existent) milk come in and just as I was about to start sobbing over the poor baby crying her little heart out, I pretended I needed another hot dog.
Maybe I should have asked to hold her. (I thought about it. I glanced at the baby, glanced at Dad). But Dad’s hands were free, and he’s not deaf. And my hands weren’t clean (I like people to wash their hands when it’s such a tiny baby).
And parents are different, or so I’ve heard.
It was none of my damn business (probably). Especially considering I can’t even say the word “babywearing” without dying a little inside, and I do let my babies (my slightly-older babies) cry at night. (Meaning the word “sleep-training” breaks me out in amphetamine-laced rainbows of anticipation).
But that little baby crying at the park tonight — I could almost feel the little peanut inside me reaching his hands (positive thinking on that — really I was going to say “her hands”) to me and crying the cry I’ll be able to recognize in a crowded churchhouse within minutes, and I can’t wait to hold him/her/it (knock on wood it won’t be an it) and work on our satiated drunken sailor look.
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Why weren’t they available before?
I can’t handle babies crying when there is no good reason. I can’t imagine not trying to comfort the baby at all… just letting it sit and cry when you’re not busy. Heck, it kills me when I’m unavailable and the baby is crying – like when the toddler is covering me in throw up or some other such euphoria-inducing mommy moment.
My husband lets my baby cry sometimes and it bugs the heck out of me. I just don’t understand not wanting to comfort your child.
Congrats on walking away, but I certainly wouldn’t think any less of you for butting in. Not me, since I would be sorely tempted to butt in myself.
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Heather Reply:
August 14th, 2009 at 12:53 pm
never mind. found the tweet saying she forgot.
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“I could almost feel the little peanut inside me reaching his hands (positive thinking on that — really I was going to say “her hands”) to me and crying the cry I’ll be able to recognize in a crowded churchhouse within minutes, and I can’t wait to hold him/her/it (knock on wood it won’t be an it) and work on our satiated drunken sailor look.”
CONGRATS!!!!
Steff
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Insanely excited for you. Living vicariously, if that’s ok
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congrats! very exciting for your family!
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“Knock on wood it won’t be an ‘it’”– funny.
I would have had a very difficult time with that, too. In fact, I’ve been there. Blah.
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Congrats possum! (our possums are cute, not rodents!!)
Although I’m not preggers, I had the same thing on my short flight home yesterday. Two wailing bubs (twins, both Mama and Dada were there). I so wanted to console, help, cuddle – at the very least assure them there was one person not grimacing at them harshly. Even if parts of me were yearning for the wee bubs to be consoled by something.
Anyhoo … congrats!!!
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When I read “but I felt my (non-existent) milk come in”, my non-existant milk came in! I swear that is the wierdest feeling but precious at the same time. Congratulations on your family’s new addition.
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We all know you’re a great mother and can only be even better with another one. Congrats and best wishes from Germany.
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I just found your blog. Very Funny.
I would have walked away too, but stored everything up for my husband when I got home. He gets railed on sometimes for other people actions. That’s how I roll. He loves it.
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I dunno how I missed the announcement, but I do remember reading this for the first time…and being bummed I couldn’t leave a comment. Congrats! Sending boy vibes your way! When are you due?
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