Comments on: “Dazzlingly clever, stunningly beautiful, or angelically good?” THIS GIVEAWAY IS NOW CLOSED

By: Molly Capel

Molly Capel — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 10:18:40 +0000

The best compliment I’ve ever gotten, was I had gorgeous eyes, and that I’m a great mom. Both gave me a great boost. And I would pick the first one. I really like the title.

By: Amy L.

Amy L. — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 07:26:03 +0000

I read your “Good Enough Mother” post and it reminded me of what happened to my friend last month. She was walking out of a mall store and saw an elderly women banging on the back window of a car. The doors were locked and she wanted out. The poor lady must have had dementia or something because she couldn’t understand how to unlock the doors. Anyway, a couple came out of the store and told my friend that the other passengers of that car (a woman and a young girl) went into the mall over an hour ago. Well, the mall security got involved and paged and paged but the owners of the car did not come. The police were called and finally the lady & her child came out and looked quite shocked. The policeman told her that she needed to get her mother home. And they proceeded to take her inside. Your story is a bit different. She only gone for 12 minutes, not over an hour so I don’t think that is so bad.

As for compliments, well I don’t get many and when I do I usually don’t believe them.

Thanks for the contest.

melazy1(at)gmail(dot)com

By: tara

tara — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 05:56:38 +0000

Great giveaway idea. My best compliment came from a total stranger who approached my car one day about 8 years ago and said “i just wanted to tell you i think your absolutely beautiful, have a good day” and he walked off. He was a young guy, about 20 and i was feeling really dumpy that day because i had been looking for work with no luck. I guess it was the surprise as well as the lack of any expectations that made me think it was a great compliment.

By: crystal allen

crystal allen — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 04:46:45 +0000

1) What’s the best compliment you’ve ever gotten? that my kids were well behaved while we were speaking with a realator about business.

2) Have you ever given someone a compliment and known that you’ve made a real difference in their day? (What was it?) yes, that i really did like their new hair cut.

3) How do you make your compliments meaningful? i only compliment when i truly mean it.

By: Jennifer Barr

Jennifer Barr — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 00:39:02 +0000

I guess the best compliment would be when I started losing weight and didn’t realize I was getting smaller until a friend mentioned how good i looked. Horrible that i was still seeing an “overweight” person in the mirror up until that point.

By: Alka

Alka — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 00:09:44 +0000

1) I was in my 3rd summer working as a teenager and my boss comes over, whispers in my ear “Youre the best employee i have ever had”
2) I hope I have but I cannot put my finger on the time…
3) I try to put myself in the other person’s position

the B type posts are my favorite

By: Alka

Alka — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 00:09:15 +0000

1) I was in my 3rd summer working as a teenager and my boss comes over, whispers in my ear “Youre the best employee i have ever had” 2) I hope I have but I cannot put my finger on the time…
3) I try to put myself in the other person’s position

the B type posts are my favorite

By: Peggie

Peggie — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 23:40:29 +0000

1) What’s the best compliment you’ve ever gotten? I think the best one was when I was helping with a children’s camp that was having a lot of staff relationship problems. When my husband and I came in to the room and things calmed down we were told that what we brought to the camp was calmness. That when we came in so did calmness. I have never forgotten that.

2) Have you ever given someone a compliment and known that you’ve made a real difference in their day? See above

3) How do you make your compliments meaningful? I have a problem with this at times, but try to find the best and say something. This is so important with children as well as adults who are having a bad day. No matter what there can be something good to say.

4) What’s your most coveted compliment? To be honest and have integrety

You write well, so your posts are equally good, just different. Must pick? I take C.

By: Patricia Treskovich

Patricia Treskovich — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 23:38:08 +0000

compliment to me–your hair looks nice–usually not true,but occasionally it behaves
compliment to other–you did a good job to a dementia patient
I deal with seniors so do try to make a meaninful compliment
Hope someone would think I lok young for my age

By: Maggie Smith

Maggie Smith — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 22:00:45 +0000

1) What’s the best compliment you’ve ever gotten? I love when people tell me that they have noticed that I have lost weight. It makes eating diet foods worth it!!

2) Have you ever given someone a compliment and known that you’ve made a real difference in their day? (What was it?)
I wait tables and I had a lady order some wine. She was with a younger girl that I carded. It was obviously that this woman was at least 35 or so but I asked to see her ID too. She smirked, smiled and was beaming until she left. She must have felt on top of the world, she was 40!

3) How do you make your compliments meaningful?
Well, I never say nice things to people, OK RARELY so when I actually compliment someone, then it is very meaningful!

4.) Coveted Compliment?!
“You look better now than you did back in highschool”

By: carol

carol — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 21:32:29 +0000

That I was a good Mom. My Mom told me that.

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By: judy brittle

judy brittle — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 16:47:45 +0000

1. The best compliment I ever received was one day at work my boss came up to me and said I was the nicest person she ever met.
2. The compliment I gave was at bingo there is a lady who brings her daughter who has Down’s Syndrome and she was the sweetest most loving girl who always gave a nice smile and a hug for everyone. One day she was crying and was saying how ugly she was. Everyone was telling her that she was a very beautiful girl and that she shouldn’t be so sad. I went up to her and said that she was beautiful in kindness and in her loving ways. I told her she makes people happy and lifts everyone’s spirits. Right then she threw her arms around me put a big smile on her face thanking me for not lying to her like everybody else
and I knew my words have helped her.
3.As in number question 2 I was totally honest with her and I meant every word I said. I wanted to tell her she was beautiful but I did it honestly with what about her was truly beautiful. Her looks are what they are but I say truthfully she is the most beautiful person I have ever met.
4. Coveted compliment? After dinner my husband saying that was really good.

By: Rhonda Mason

Rhonda Mason — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 16:45:44 +0000

1)The best? I rasied 6 kids and everyday we all walked to the post office. It was hectic but something I enjoyed. One day while I was standing outside an open window I heard a lady say ” She is a wonderful mother and all those kids are always dressed nice and neat”.I was surprised to look in and see she was talking about me! And I haven’t forgotten…my “kids are now 29-40!
2)I have a friend whose DH constantly critcizes her. I make sure to compliment something everytime I see her and I know it matters because shes told me so!
3)I think compliments are meaningful unless you have to look for something to compliment! I have a DIL that at first I had to search- now I know her strong points its easier!
4) DIL’s saying they want to learn to cook like me! Yay!
I like the practical tips, cool pancakes!

By: Heather A

Heather A — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 15:54:51 +0000

1) What’s the best compliment you’ve ever gotten?

I was told that I was a great mom. After dealing with PPD I was so worried that I was a terrible mother and that my daughter would grow to hate me. It made me feel much better about myself and my ability to mother.

2) Have you ever given someone a compliment and known that you’ve made a real difference in their day? (What was it?)

I don’t know. I do know that the other day I told a mom friend that has 5 kiddos with 3 under 3, that I was insanely jealous of her. She does cloth diapering, nurses her kiddo’s, does all organic etc. I wish I had the time and patience to do all that for my kids. I think she needed to hear that, I know it has been rough having so many kids (3 (1 and a set of twins)came after the big V)

3) How do you make your compliments meaningful?

You have to mean them. I can’t really answer that. A compliment is meaningful if it comes from the heart and is honest.

4. Most coveted compliment?

Hum that is a hard one. I think it would be that my cooking is good. I have finally started getting better, and we don’t have many “Whataburger nights” (you know the ones that dinner is so bad that you go out to eat instead) anymore.

And finally the Practical tips are my favorite. I love the pancakes!!!

By: Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah

Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 12:52:03 +0000

A guy told me I had beautiful armpits once.

Another time a friend of mine and I were singing along with a cd and a guy told us that we were the only people he knew that made the radio sound better.

By: Lori M

Lori M — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 12:38:08 +0000

An x-ray tect “stated I was a very good daughter because I took such good care of my Mom” but it wasn’t my Mom it was a lady I took care of …I thought I must be doing a good job ..It felt great !

By: Sue A.

Sue A. — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 11:46:56 +0000

1) What’s the best compliment you’ve ever gotten?
At work—people wanting to learn how you did something! Copying is a great compliment!
2) Have you ever given someone a compliment and known that you’ve made a real difference in their day?
Girl friends always like it when you notice real meaningful weight loss that results from healthy choices (as opposed to illness).
3) How do you make your compliments meaningful?
Make it geared to what you about the person, and don’t give out general compliments that often sound insincere.
4) What’s your most coveted compliment?
Compliments for doing a job well and possibly for something the compliment giver can’t do.
I like A type!

By: Amy gangloff

Amy gangloff — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 05:59:27 +0000

Yeah the compliments I give that I feel make the best difference in a woman’s day is when I tell a woman that she is looking pretty today. I make it meaningful by looking at them when I say it and smiling and they tell me that I made their day. Compliments always make everythign better , thanks.

By: cheryl c.

cheryl c. — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 05:06:15 +0000

1. “You are a true friend.” AND “You are a great Mom.”
2. At work we rarely get praise from bosses, so I like to let a co-worker know when I notice them doing a good job at something. I have found that giving just a little compliment can do wonders for someone’s self-esteem.
3. Look the person in the eyes.
4. You look so skinny!

I like A and C.