Comments on: What did your father tell you this morning? About eating the blossoms and leaving the greens? http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/ online mother Tue, 07 Feb 2012 20:38:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: And how did that work out for you? | What About Mom http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-21792 And how did that work out for you? | What About Mom Wed, 07 Jan 2009 04:32:48 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-21792 [...] couple months ago I said something rude to my sister. It didn’t even really make sense, but it was definitely potentially [...] [...] couple months ago I said something rude to my sister. It didn’t even really make sense, but it was definitely potentially [...]

]]> By: Andrea http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-18063 Andrea Wed, 19 Nov 2008 18:11:42 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-18063 When someone dares to say anything to me about my children being underdressed for the weather, I say, "It really is a miracle any of my children survived past infancy having me as a mother." They usually don't say much after that. When someone dares to say anything to me about my children being underdressed for the weather, I say, “It really is a miracle any of my children survived past infancy having me as a mother.” They usually don’t say much after that.

]]> By: erica http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17963 erica Tue, 18 Nov 2008 19:10:42 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17963 Ah, maybe I was a li'l charitable too because my son was also running and jumping by a year old, not toddling like hers. It may be easy to be humble when your kids are fabulous geniuses. ;) ericas last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/DesigningUserExperience/~3/454216673/" rel="nofollow">Mind Mapping and User Experience</a> Ah, maybe I was a li’l charitable too because my son was also running and jumping by a year old, not toddling like hers.

It may be easy to be humble when your kids are fabulous geniuses. ;)

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]]> By: erica http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17962 erica Tue, 18 Nov 2008 19:08:36 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17962 I had something similar a few weeks ago, although in that case the other person who put their foot in their mouth didn't realize it. I did judge and feel offended at the time, but ended up dealing with it later and getting over it. In this case we were at a McDonalds play place and a lady asked how old my youngest is. When I told her 20 months, she went "wow he's so small, my youngest is only a year old and just as big". At the time I was irritated and thought why would you say something like that to me? The Dr knows he's small and he's perfectly healthy, my husband and I were tiny children too! Then later I realized - she had just watched my son zip back and forth past her little one several times, as her little guy stumbled and toddled along. I bet she thought mine was the same age and felt bad that hers wasn't walking well whereas mine was jumping, climbing, and basically being a little acrobat. She was just responding to that defensive feeling and realization that her baby wasn't behind, mine was just quite a bit older! So ah well, forgive and forget :) I had something similar a few weeks ago, although in that case the other person who put their foot in their mouth didn’t realize it. I did judge and feel offended at the time, but ended up dealing with it later and getting over it.

In this case we were at a McDonalds play place and a lady asked how old my youngest is. When I told her 20 months, she went “wow he’s so small, my youngest is only a year old and just as big”. At the time I was irritated and thought why would you say something like that to me? The Dr knows he’s small and he’s perfectly healthy, my husband and I were tiny children too!

Then later I realized – she had just watched my son zip back and forth past her little one several times, as her little guy stumbled and toddled along. I bet she thought mine was the same age and felt bad that hers wasn’t walking well whereas mine was jumping, climbing, and basically being a little acrobat. She was just responding to that defensive feeling and realization that her baby wasn’t behind, mine was just quite a bit older! So ah well, forgive and forget :)

]]> By: Natasha http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17946 Natasha Tue, 18 Nov 2008 16:07:30 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17946 That was awesome. I would want to kiss that man, too. As for that gene, sometimes it can lay dormant. I never used to feel like I had it. I probably said just as many if not more stupid things than you. I've been marveling this month over how that's not such a big problem for me. Three years ago I would have had so many flame wars on my blog by now. I think that stopping ourselves from saying stupid things is best achieved by stopping ourselves from THINKING them. You have to get to the source of why you think them. What is your belief system that's causing them? I know, it was probably a rhetorical question. :-) Natashas last blog post..<a href="http://www.commentluv.com/download/" rel="nofollow">CommentLuv needs updating on this site. Please download the latest version and install it on your site. This message will apear during the first 10 minutes of each hour. This remote script will cease returning posts in 7 days</a> That was awesome. I would want to kiss that man, too.

As for that gene, sometimes it can lay dormant. I never used to feel like I had it. I probably said just as many if not more stupid things than you. I’ve been marveling this month over how that’s not such a big problem for me. Three years ago I would have had so many flame wars on my blog by now.

I think that stopping ourselves from saying stupid things is best achieved by stopping ourselves from THINKING them. You have to get to the source of why you think them. What is your belief system that’s causing them?

I know, it was probably a rhetorical question. :-)

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]]> By: Sharla http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17883 Sharla Tue, 18 Nov 2008 02:46:04 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17883 When I was out and about today I thought of the comment I wanted to give for this post and now it is completely gone. So just so you know it was witty and clever and vaguely approaching "Jane-prose". Okay, not really, I'll never be that good. Once again, you've said what's in my head but in a much better way than I ever could. Okay, enough with the compliments, it may start to get to your head.... I'm not sure a day goes by when I don't interject a run on paragraph into the thoughts of others aimed directly at me and my millions of faults. So I'm totally with you there. But whenever I start to do that I remind myself of this quote: "We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do." (don't know the source, sorry). So chances are when we're imagining all the horrible things people are thinking about us we should realize they're probably sitting there doing the same. Oh, and jealous glares to Tara. Sharlas last blog post..<a href="http://simplyscrapstampsing.blogspot.com/2008/11/book-giveaway_17.html" rel="nofollow">Book giveaway</a> When I was out and about today I thought of the comment I wanted to give for this post and now it is completely gone. So just so you know it was witty and clever and vaguely approaching “Jane-prose”. Okay, not really, I’ll never be that good. Once again, you’ve said what’s in my head but in a much better way than I ever could.

Okay, enough with the compliments, it may start to get to your head….
I’m not sure a day goes by when I don’t interject a run on paragraph into the thoughts of others aimed directly at me and my millions of faults. So I’m totally with you there. But whenever I start to do that I remind myself of this quote: “We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do.” (don’t know the source, sorry). So chances are when we’re imagining all the horrible things people are thinking about us we should realize they’re probably sitting there doing the same.

Oh, and jealous glares to Tara.

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]]> By: Kirsty http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17880 Kirsty Tue, 18 Nov 2008 02:31:51 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17880 I still remember a stupid thing I said to another girl at high school in 1989 (and yes, I remember the year). Moments later, I completely regretted it. And still do. Sometimes I even fit both of my size 11 feet in my mouth! And you're absolutely not the only person to read more into complete strangers comments. Before M had eye surgery last year, I'd get strangers who weren't even optometrists, let alone opthamologists, making diagnoses of lazy eye and whatever else in the supermarket. Though none of their comments ever turned around into an "I get it" like this gent at the supermarket did for you. Kirstys last blog post..<a href="http://bunrabbit.blogspot.com/2008/11/biiig-girls-bed.html" rel="nofollow">BIIIG Girl's Bed</a> I still remember a stupid thing I said to another girl at high school in 1989 (and yes, I remember the year). Moments later, I completely regretted it. And still do. Sometimes I even fit both of my size 11 feet in my mouth!
And you’re absolutely not the only person to read more into complete strangers comments. Before M had eye surgery last year, I’d get strangers who weren’t even optometrists, let alone opthamologists, making diagnoses of lazy eye and whatever else in the supermarket. Though none of their comments ever turned around into an “I get it” like this gent at the supermarket did for you.

Kirstys last blog post..BIIIG Girl’s Bed

]]> By: Ben http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17871 Ben Tue, 18 Nov 2008 01:02:57 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17871 Hey Jane, I decided to subscribe because Dick posted about you and your blog recently, and I'm getting caught up on my feeds again. I like your down-to-earth commentary. Anyway, I definitely have a stop-and-reflect gene, and when I say something stupid and don't have a chance to apologize, it can bother me for a long time afterward. So I just have to hope that people I've possibly offended have forgiven/forgotten. Bens last blog post..<a href="http://www.commentluv.com/download/" rel="nofollow">CommentLuv needs updating on this site. Please download the latest version and install it on your site. This message will apear during the first 10 minutes of each hour. This remote script will cease returning posts in 7 days</a> Hey Jane, I decided to subscribe because Dick posted about you and your blog recently, and I’m getting caught up on my feeds again. I like your down-to-earth commentary. Anyway, I definitely have a stop-and-reflect gene, and when I say something stupid and don’t have a chance to apologize, it can bother me for a long time afterward. So I just have to hope that people I’ve possibly offended have forgiven/forgotten.

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]]> By: Michelle Glauser http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17843 Michelle Glauser Mon, 17 Nov 2008 20:16:51 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17843 Yep, I live in Germany. There are so many awesome things about it, but also crazy things, like the fact that I can't just put a flag up, I have to either go to the post office or walk around the neighborhood searching to send a letter. But who sends letters now anyway? Michelle Glausers last blog post..<a href="http://michelleglauser.blogspot.com/2008/11/deep-voiced-lady-more-public-transpo.html" rel="nofollow">Deep-Voiced Lady (More Public Transpo Adventures)</a> Yep, I live in Germany. There are so many awesome things about it, but also crazy things, like the fact that I can’t just put a flag up, I have to either go to the post office or walk around the neighborhood searching to send a letter. But who sends letters now anyway?

Michelle Glausers last blog post..Deep-Voiced Lady (More Public Transpo Adventures)

]]> By: Paula http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17829 Paula Mon, 17 Nov 2008 18:26:01 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17829 Funny how quick we are to judge when we feel judged--I think it's self defense. Paulas last blog post..<a href="http://a-large-room.blogspot.com/2008/11/emulating-mary-and-quest-for-simplicity.html" rel="nofollow">Emulating Mary and Quest for Simplicity</a> Funny how quick we are to judge when we feel judged–I think it’s self defense.

Paulas last blog post..Emulating Mary and Quest for Simplicity

]]> By: Maggie http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17811 Maggie Mon, 17 Nov 2008 14:45:52 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17811 I am so the same way. I do say dumb things all the time, and feel badly, and reflect on what I should have said...for YEARS! Seriously! I also get so mad when people butt into my business. Like last year, around Christmas, in Walmart, some lady said my daughter's eyes were glazed. I still think about what my retort should have been. So, no, you're not the only one. :) I am so the same way. I do say dumb things all the time, and feel badly, and reflect on what I should have said…for YEARS! Seriously!
I also get so mad when people butt into my business. Like last year, around Christmas, in Walmart, some lady said my daughter’s eyes were glazed. I still think about what my retort should have been.
So, no, you’re not the only one. :)

]]> By: Donna http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17807 Donna Mon, 17 Nov 2008 14:20:15 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17807 A lot of the time I say things that I am sorry for and the other way around... but I have learned over the years to just let it go... Life is to short to sweat the small stuff right... Now if it's really big I apologize and if it is someone else that said it I will sometimes talk it over with them... Have a fun filled day (((HUGS))) Donna A lot of the time I say things that I am sorry for and the other way around… but I have learned over the years to just let it go… Life is to short to sweat the small stuff right… Now if it’s really big I apologize and if it is someone else that said it I will sometimes talk it over with them… Have a fun filled day

(((HUGS)))
Donna

]]> By: MereCat http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17802 MereCat Mon, 17 Nov 2008 13:20:18 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17802 Don't we all make more out of others' comments? I loved this post for the recognition of how we read too much into things juxtaposed with having said the wrong thing to someone else. This was really awesome and introspective. And that honesty? I bet your sister forgives you just for that. Don’t we all make more out of others’ comments? I loved this post for the recognition of how we read too much into things juxtaposed with having said the wrong thing to someone else. This was really awesome and introspective. And that honesty? I bet your sister forgives you just for that.

]]> By: Michelle Glauser http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17779 Michelle Glauser Mon, 17 Nov 2008 08:47:59 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17779 Your stream of consciousness after his comment is awesome. I'm glad it turned out the way it did. Your experience reminds me of the people in Germany who see Mormon families and say, "That's a lot of children," when what they mean is, "That's too many children. Those people are irresponsible and ruining the earth and probably raising their children in poverty and don't they know what birth control is?" Michelle Glausers last blog post..<a href="http://michelleglauser.blogspot.com/2008/11/hip-hip-hooray-for-health.html" rel="nofollow">Hip Hip Hooray for Health</a> Your stream of consciousness after his comment is awesome. I’m glad it turned out the way it did. Your experience reminds me of the people in Germany who see Mormon families and say, “That’s a lot of children,” when what they mean is, “That’s too many children. Those people are irresponsible and ruining the earth and probably raising their children in poverty and don’t they know what birth control is?”

Michelle Glausers last blog post..Hip Hip Hooray for Health

]]> By: Jane http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17840 Jane Mon, 17 Nov 2008 08:45:31 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17840 Kimberly -- My kids love Bambi, and whenever I protest about how sad it is that Bambi's mother gets shot and DIES, my (smart-aleck) oldest says, "That's my favorite part!" I had to come back and change "bread crumbs" to "cracker crumbs in my post. Thought of that alliteration early this morning (like 3 am). We're crazy! Kimberly — My kids love Bambi, and whenever I protest about how sad it is that Bambi’s mother gets shot and DIES, my (smart-aleck) oldest says, “That’s my favorite part!”

I had to come back and change “bread crumbs” to “cracker crumbs in my post. Thought of that alliteration early this morning (like 3 am).

We’re crazy!

]]> By: Kimberly http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17776 Kimberly Mon, 17 Nov 2008 08:26:59 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17776 I have to correct myself; I think Thumper actually said, "But they sure are awful things to eat," instead of "stuff" to eat. I know, crazy to come back and correct myself, but it was driving me nuts that "stuff" sounded singular and didn't fit with the sentence, so my brain bugged me until I rememberd the line. Who knows. Maybe I'm still remembering it wrong. I have to correct myself; I think Thumper actually said, “But they sure are awful things to eat,” instead of “stuff” to eat.

I know, crazy to come back and correct myself, but it was driving me nuts that “stuff” sounded singular and didn’t fit with the sentence, so my brain bugged me until I rememberd the line. Who knows. Maybe I’m still remembering it wrong.

]]> By: Lauren Horsley http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17774 Lauren Horsley Mon, 17 Nov 2008 08:11:38 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17774 I'm impressed that you were silent long enough for him to make his second remark. I'm usually ready to defend my mothering skills to the death at a moment's notice (despite the fact that secretly, most days I know I'm only doing a so-so job) - especially when someone I don't know takes one look at me and the kiddos and seems to sum up my entire parenthood experience with one crushing squint of the eye. Lauren Horsleys last blog post..<a href="http://horsleyfam.blogspot.com/2008/11/unpacked.html" rel="nofollow">Unpacked</a> I’m impressed that you were silent long enough for him to make his second remark. I’m usually ready to defend my mothering skills to the death at a moment’s notice (despite the fact that secretly, most days I know I’m only doing a so-so job) – especially when someone I don’t know takes one look at me and the kiddos and seems to sum up my entire parenthood experience with one crushing squint of the eye.

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]]> By: Kimberly http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17773 Kimberly Mon, 17 Nov 2008 08:11:30 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17773 I liked the run-on sentence, er, paragraph, too. Especially how you just KNEW this guy knew all your worst mommy moments from a comment about your daughter being cold. But what grabbed my attention was the title, because we quote Thumper.We have a sign on our fridge with Thumper saying "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all" (yeah, yeah, I know he actualy says "...don't say nuthin' at all," but I printed off the correct grammar instead. So let's see, Thumper recites: "Greens are such a wonderful treat. They make long ears and great big feet." Then, speaking out of the side of his mouth, "But they sure are awful stuff to eat. (I made that last part up myself)" I liked the run-on sentence, er, paragraph, too. Especially how you just KNEW this guy knew all your worst mommy moments from a comment about your daughter being cold.

But what grabbed my attention was the title, because we quote Thumper.We have a sign on our fridge with Thumper saying “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all” (yeah, yeah, I know he actualy says “…don’t say nuthin’ at all,” but I printed off the correct grammar instead.

So let’s see, Thumper recites:
“Greens are such a wonderful treat.
They make long ears and great big feet.”
Then, speaking out of the side of his mouth,
“But they sure are awful stuff to eat.
(I made that last part up myself)”

]]> By: Tara http://www.seagullfountain.com/2008/11/16/what-did-your-father-tell-you-this-morning-about-eating-the-blossoms-and-leaving-the-greens/comment-page-1/#comment-17762 Tara Mon, 17 Nov 2008 06:03:29 +0000 http://www.seagullfountain.com/?p=2273#comment-17762 I love the 2nd paragraph. What all your readers might not know is that you can pull out an awesome paragraph-long run-on sentence like that ANY time at all. In real life. And it will sound just that witty & profound. Or at least that true. I'm so glad I know you IRL. Yes, Jane's other readers may now commence with the jealous glares in my direction. Taras last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/TheWell-roundedWoman/~3/454577595/saturday-night-at-my-house.html" rel="nofollow">Saturday night at my house</a> I love the 2nd paragraph. What all your readers might not know is that you can pull out an awesome paragraph-long run-on sentence like that ANY time at all. In real life. And it will sound just that witty & profound. Or at least that true. I’m so glad I know you IRL. Yes, Jane’s other readers may now commence with the jealous glares in my direction.

Taras last blog post..Saturday night at my house

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