Comments on: If you give your sister a kidney

By: dANIELLE

dANIELLE — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 15:42:50 +0000

Hey Shannon,

Im sorry for the anguish this is causing you. You sound very affected by whatever is happening and I know that I would feel the same way! I hope your sister is ok!

By: M

Fri, 21 Mar 2008 11:47:21 +0000

Mom says that after Jodi died I drew picture after picture of her to help with my mourning process. Now when I need to process things like that I write and write in my journal and talk and talk to people.

By: Jane

Jane — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 05:59:07 +0000

Thanks to everyone for your kind thoughts to me and my sister. It’s a touchy situation, and I didn’t want to say anything I shouldn’t or be indiscreet, but I had to express myself. There’s so little else I can do, and that’s the most frustrating thing of all.

Knowing that someone you love is hurting, and not being able to fix it. Not being able to do anything at all, except for loving and “being there” for them. And maybe hating their pain.

I looked up the 5 stages of grief. Apparently you don’t necessarily go through all of them and/or don’t experience them in this order, but here they are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance.

I haven’t experienced or seen real grief (except for the miscarriage, which really wasn’t as bad as this, probably because I was able to come to acceptance relatively quickly) since my Aunt Jodi died when I was 11, and though that hurt, how much grief can an 11-year-old really feel about someone who isn’t part of their daily lives?

Mary and I loved Aunt Jodi. She painted our nails and let us sleep on her waterbed with her and helped us ride her pony Star. Aunt Jodi died of kidney failure at 21 even after two transplants, so maybe that’s why I think of wanting to give a kidney. But a kidney wouldn’t help my sister’s hurt. I wish it would.

Your prayers and love do help. Thank you.

By: Julie Stiles Mills

Julie Stiles Mills — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 04:17:24 +0000

I am so sorry to hear about your sister. You are added to my prayer list.

By: the mama bird diaries

the mama bird diaries — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 02:35:47 +0000

I am so sorry for whatever is going on with your sister. What a beautiful post. Sending lots of love and prayers.

By: Marie J

Marie J — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 02:05:58 +0000

Love to you. Such awful things we grown ups deal with. My seven year old is so unhappy he is seven. He is the 3rd child, and spends too much time watching what 11 and 9 year-olds can do, never feeling adequate. If only he could understand how really hard being grown up is. Reality comes.

In my life, I know my family is connected eternally. I pray you have that knowledge in your heart as well.

By: Tracey J.

Tracey J. — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 23:40:39 +0000

I wish your family peace and comfort right now. I am so sorry to hear about your sister. When I read about all of the things that could happen to me or my family, such as illnesses or accidents, it makes me very nervous and anxious…like I don’t want to ever leave the house or yell at my husband or ignore a phone call from my sister or brother. But I always do. Again, I hope and pray that everything goes well.

By: Carolina

Carolina — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 21:50:05 +0000

Life really isn’t fair, but sisters can be God-sent angels to help us through those rough inevitable unfair times. You are such a great sister–I’m sure your sister finds a lot of strength and courage in your support. I have not been a good sister in a lot of ways, and I sincerely regret that. I’ve tried and tried to make up for my bad sistering moments, but it takes a lifetime, I suppose. I just hope that I’ve learned my lesson and that I’ll be a better sister and friend than I have been in the past.

By: Angela

Angela — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 20:23:43 +0000

Oh, what a heartwarming and sad post all at the same time. I will be praying for you and your sister. Miracles happen.

By: tarable

tarable — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 19:52:27 +0000

I love your sister and I love you. Praying for you both.

By: Toni

Toni — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 14:50:48 +0000

I am so sorry that your sister is sick. I don’t even know what to say. You both will be in my prayers.

Toni

By: tracey

tracey — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 14:19:58 +0000

Life truly isn’t fair… I don’t know the full story on your sister, but I know I’d give my sisters a kidney if needed, too. Hoping she’s ok, and that you guys don’t have to grow up TOO much…