Comments on: Moral Dilemmas, and my first requested topic (thanks Danielle!) http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/ online mother Tue, 07 Feb 2012 20:38:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Astestbic http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/comment-page-1/#comment-30266 Astestbic Fri, 24 Apr 2009 06:56:54 +0000 http://idratherbewriting.com/family/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/#comment-30266 I'm the only one in this world. Can please someone join me in this life? Or maybe death... I’m the only one in this world. Can please someone join me in this life? Or maybe death…

]]> By: Danielle http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/comment-page-1/#comment-430 Danielle Thu, 17 May 2007 00:51:09 +0000 http://idratherbewriting.com/family/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/#comment-430 This article about "un-supermoms" disturbed me because they all seemed lazy to me. They seemed to make excuses for themselves as to why they can't be good moms, so they didn't even bother to try to be good moms. I think that any normal mother wants to do her best, while it is ok to accept that you are not perfect, I do not feel that you should set your expectations so low like many of these moms do, that you don't even bother to try. Anyway, that is my opinion of the article! Thanks for posting about it. It seemed like something you would find interesting. This article about “un-supermoms” disturbed me because they all seemed lazy to me. They seemed to make excuses for themselves as to why they can’t be good moms, so they didn’t even bother to try to be good moms. I think that any normal mother wants to do her best, while it is ok to accept that you are not perfect, I do not feel that you should set your expectations so low like many of these moms do, that you don’t even bother to try.

Anyway, that is my opinion of the article! Thanks for posting about it. It seemed like something you would find interesting.

]]> By: tarable http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/comment-page-1/#comment-422 tarable Wed, 16 May 2007 14:40:41 +0000 http://idratherbewriting.com/family/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/#comment-422 bring on the drugs! although last time i didn't get an epidural until i was dilated to 9 and thought about going without - until the next contraction came and they said if i waited any longer it would be too late bring on the drugs! although last time i didn’t get an epidural until i was dilated to 9 and thought about going without – until the next contraction came and they said if i waited any longer it would be too late

]]> By: Marcy http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/comment-page-1/#comment-421 Marcy Wed, 16 May 2007 13:57:25 +0000 http://idratherbewriting.com/family/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/#comment-421 I'll be having lots of good drugs for my next c-section, thank you very much! I’ll be having lots of good drugs for my next c-section, thank you very much!

]]> By: Shannon http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/comment-page-1/#comment-417 Shannon Wed, 16 May 2007 00:58:11 +0000 http://idratherbewriting.com/family/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/#comment-417 funny! maybe i'll have to read that book again. the first was great! i'm seriously thinking of going drug-free next time, thinking that it will be pretty easy compared, since lucy required a whole 2 pushes. i'll have to do some education and learn new labor positions and stuff. but i won't be burning any bridges, and i won't be ashamed if i change my mind. funny! maybe i’ll have to read that book again. the first was great! i’m seriously thinking of going drug-free next time, thinking that it will be pretty easy compared, since lucy required a whole 2 pushes. i’ll have to do some education and learn new labor positions and stuff. but i won’t be burning any bridges, and i won’t be ashamed if i change my mind.

]]> By: Marcy http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/comment-page-1/#comment-416 Marcy Tue, 15 May 2007 22:02:15 +0000 http://idratherbewriting.com/family/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/#comment-416 Just read the perfect quote from <i>Bridget Jones's Diary</i>: <blockquote>"Heart was sinking at thought of being late and hungover, surrounded by ex-career-girl mothers and their Competitive Childrearing. Magda, once a commodity broker, lies about Harry's age, now, to make him seem more advanced than he is. Even the conception was cutthroat, with Magda trying to take eight times as much folic acid and minerals as anyone else. The birth was great. She'd been telling everyone for months it was going to be a natural childbirth and, ten minutes in, she cracked and started yelling, "Give me the drugs, you fat cow."</blockquote> Just read the perfect quote from Bridget Jones’s Diary:

“Heart was sinking at thought of being late and hungover, surrounded by ex-career-girl mothers and their Competitive Childrearing. Magda, once a commodity broker, lies about Harry’s age, now, to make him seem more advanced than he is. Even the conception was cutthroat, with Magda trying to take eight times as much folic acid and minerals as anyone else. The birth was great. She’d been telling everyone for months it was going to be a natural childbirth and, ten minutes in, she cracked and started yelling, “Give me the drugs, you fat cow.”

]]> By: Marcy http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/comment-page-1/#comment-415 Marcy Tue, 15 May 2007 20:13:32 +0000 http://idratherbewriting.com/family/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/#comment-415 It was probably about a year ago that I stepped back from my housework and thought, "Why should my house look like a museum? We live here." Who cares if the kids have their toys out all over the house? That's fine as long as they clean up when it's clean up time. One friend's housekeeping I really admire consists of not having much clutter. Meaning she keeps her toaster in a drawer. I thought that was very bizarre, but then I found out my other really clean friend keeps hers in a cupboard too. Anyway, what I take from the no clutter queen is that you don't need to have lots of stuff in your house. If you have fewer knicknacks you have fewer things to dust, you know? I'm now doing a huge sorting project through my house--after realizing during our move that we had a lot of stuff we don't use--and it feels so good to get rid of stuff we don't really need. And I try not to buy stuff unless I'm sure it will come in handy frequently. Less to sort, less to pay for, less to store, less to move during moving time, etc. Anyhoo, I'm pretty content with my pace as a housewife and mother except when I hear all the cool places you take your kids, Shannon! I think I'm just a real homebody. Am I not exposing my children to enough stimuli? Adrianne, that's funny about your sister's microwave. Karin, our younger sis, has the funniest opinions sometimes about childrearing. She's like, "Isn't it fun and games all the time? What is there to get stressed about?" Karin, if you're reading this, I love you. I just think you'll have a wake-up call--like most of us mothers have--when you're taking care of children 24/7. It was probably about a year ago that I stepped back from my housework and thought, “Why should my house look like a museum? We live here.” Who cares if the kids have their toys out all over the house? That’s fine as long as they clean up when it’s clean up time.

One friend’s housekeeping I really admire consists of not having much clutter. Meaning she keeps her toaster in a drawer. I thought that was very bizarre, but then I found out my other really clean friend keeps hers in a cupboard too. Anyway, what I take from the no clutter queen is that you don’t need to have lots of stuff in your house. If you have fewer knicknacks you have fewer things to dust, you know? I’m now doing a huge sorting project through my house–after realizing during our move that we had a lot of stuff we don’t use–and it feels so good to get rid of stuff we don’t really need. And I try not to buy stuff unless I’m sure it will come in handy frequently. Less to sort, less to pay for, less to store, less to move during moving time, etc.

Anyhoo, I’m pretty content with my pace as a housewife and mother except when I hear all the cool places you take your kids, Shannon! I think I’m just a real homebody. Am I not exposing my children to enough stimuli?

Adrianne, that’s funny about your sister’s microwave. Karin, our younger sis, has the funniest opinions sometimes about childrearing. She’s like, “Isn’t it fun and games all the time? What is there to get stressed about?” Karin, if you’re reading this, I love you. I just think you’ll have a wake-up call–like most of us mothers have–when you’re taking care of children 24/7.

]]> By: Adrianne http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/comment-page-1/#comment-414 Adrianne Tue, 15 May 2007 19:00:37 +0000 http://idratherbewriting.com/family/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/#comment-414 Hey, were you talking about my microwave? :) I will just say that my sister's microwave was so disgusting that I promised myself I wouldn't ever have one that dirty. Unfortunately, it usually is as dirty as hers used to be. I just had to write that on my blog because I have some really, really clean friends and I thought I better aknowledge it before they did. But hey, they should already know when they come to my house that I don't exactly make cleaning my priority. I do clean every day but I'm not crazy about it like some people. Hey, were you talking about my microwave? :) I will just say that my sister’s microwave was so disgusting that I promised myself I wouldn’t ever have one that dirty. Unfortunately, it usually is as dirty as hers used to be. I just had to write that on my blog because I have some really, really clean friends and I thought I better aknowledge it before they did. But hey, they should already know when they come to my house that I don’t exactly make cleaning my priority. I do clean every day but I’m not crazy about it like some people.

]]> By: tarable http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/comment-page-1/#comment-410 tarable Tue, 15 May 2007 15:31:02 +0000 http://idratherbewriting.com/family/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/#comment-410 Definitely some things to think about. I'm with Marie though, I settle for good-enough too often and forget the "working on it." If only I could transfer my worries about what other people think of me, my appearance, the appearance of my home, etc. to what my husband and kids will think of the same thing. And ultimately to what the Lord thinks of how I run my life. Definitely some things to think about. I’m with Marie though, I settle for good-enough too often and forget the “working on it.” If only I could transfer my worries about what other people think of me, my appearance, the appearance of my home, etc. to what my husband and kids will think of the same thing. And ultimately to what the Lord thinks of how I run my life.

]]> By: Shannon http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/comment-page-1/#comment-409 Shannon Tue, 15 May 2007 14:43:41 +0000 http://idratherbewriting.com/family/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/#comment-409 thanks for the input, Marie. you're right -- i forgot about <em>While You Were Sleeping</em> -- that is my favorite movie of his. you might be interested in that Judith Warner book i reviewed recently. her anecdotes about competitive-mothering-type stuff were hilarious. because of course i want my own kids to be "above-average" -- whatever average is. thanks for the input, Marie.

you’re right — i forgot about While You Were Sleeping — that is my favorite movie of his.

you might be interested in that Judith Warner book i reviewed recently. her anecdotes about competitive-mothering-type stuff were hilarious. because of course i want my own kids to be “above-average” — whatever average is.

]]> By: Marie http://www.seagullfountain.com/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/comment-page-1/#comment-406 Marie Tue, 15 May 2007 14:26:30 +0000 http://idratherbewriting.com/family/2007/05/15/moral-dilemmas-and-my-first-requested-topic-thanks-danielle/#comment-406 1) Can I yell at Avery to stop singing too loud at bedtime in the room she shares with Lucy if the song she?s singing is Mother Dear I Love You So? No. Lucy is listening and learning. 2) Is expecting Callie to kiss her elbow better herself if I am busy doing something else too hard-hearted? Yes, but only because she can't reach her elbow. 3) Will it scar Lucy forever if she hears me discussing how practically comatose content she is sometimes? No, it will probably encourage the behavior if you talk about it positively. 4) Can I still get mad at Tom for not taking out the garbage if he is 1609 miles away on a business trip? Absolutely! I love Bill Pullman! In that movie and While You Were Sleeping. I can't declare my independence because I have too much of it. If anything I'm in danger of going the other way. My problem is holding up my kids to the behavior / capabilities / learning skills of other kids. I wish I could declare my independence from that, but I'm afraid it's part of the mom gene. 1) Can I yell at Avery to stop singing too loud at bedtime in the room she shares with Lucy if the song she?s singing is Mother Dear I Love You So? No. Lucy is listening and learning.

2) Is expecting Callie to kiss her elbow better herself if I am busy doing something else too hard-hearted? Yes, but only because she can’t reach her elbow.

3) Will it scar Lucy forever if she hears me discussing how practically comatose content she is sometimes? No, it will probably encourage the behavior if you talk about it positively.

4) Can I still get mad at Tom for not taking out the garbage if he is 1609 miles away on a business trip? Absolutely!

I love Bill Pullman! In that movie and While You Were Sleeping.

I can’t declare my independence because I have too much of it. If anything I’m in danger of going the other way. My problem is holding up my kids to the behavior / capabilities / learning skills of other kids. I wish I could declare my independence from that, but I’m afraid it’s part of the mom gene.

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